If you’re one of the millions of parents with a bedwetting child, you know how awful it makes you feel when you see your child frustrated at another middle-of-the-night accident.

You know how ashamed they are when younger siblings make jokes about them still wetting the bed. You know how terrible they feel when they have to turn down another sleepover invitation because they are worried their friends will find out. What you might not know is that much of the seemingly helpful advice you’re hearing could make the situation worse. Dr Michael Mol, Brand Ambassador for DryNites® Pyjama Pants, sheds some light on seven common mistakes parents make when dealing with a bedwetting child.

Once you’ve figured bedwetting out, dry nights won’t seem so far away… Bedwetting simply refers to the uncontrollable passing of urine during sleep. It is unintentional, very common in children and manageable. If your child is wetting the bed, it’s likely that they are experiencing a minor developmental delay that affects their ability to hold in urine at night. Even though it can be annoying to deal with the aftermath of bedwetting, it’s important to remember that your child is not doing it out of laziness. Bedwetting is stressful, embarrassing and inconvenient for your child, too. The following are the common mistakes that parents make when it comes to bedwetting:

Waking your child in the middle of the night for a bathroom visit

It is common practice for parents to wake their children in the middle of the night and encourage them to use the bathroom in an effort to prevent bedwetting. This is often referred to as ‘lifting’ and can seem like a good strategy if it helps keep the sheets dry.

The reality is that this will not improve your child’s bladder control and could frustrate them, especially if they don’t need to urinate when you wake them. If your child is over five years old, it may also cause them to feel as though they have little control over the situation.

Punishing your child

Remember that your child has no control over the situation and probably feels bad enough about it as it is. Being punished for something they can’t help will only cause a decrease in self-esteem and an increase in stress.

Limiting fluids before bedtime

A child who doesn’t wet the bed will not suddenly start wetting the bed if they’ve had too much to drink – they’ll simply wake up and use the bathroom. Limiting your child’s intake of sugary or caffeinated drinks a couple of hours before bed is recommended. However, always allow water, as being dehydrated can actually make things worse.

Thinking that your child is not properly toilet trained

If your child wets the bed it doesn’t mean that they haven’t been properly toilet trained. Urine control during the day is completely different from what goes on when your child is sleeping. In most cases it will right itself in time and is nothing to worry about.

Never blame yourself or think that you didn’t finish the job properly when you were taking them through the toilet training phase. Your child could be a star bathroom-goer while they’re awake, but it’s nobody’s fault if they wet the bed while they’re asleep.

Blaming your child for being lazy

Blaming your child will only exacerbate the problem. There are a number of reasons why your child may be wetting the bed. These are the most common:
Delay in bladder reflex development, meaning your child’s bladder is not signaling the brain to wake up
Their body may not be producing enough anti-diuretic hormone, which slows down urine production at night, so we don’t have to wake up as much
A delay in bladder development can result in low bladder capacity and volume
Constipation: Full bowels press on your child’s bladder and can cause uncontrolled bladder contractions

Ignoring the problem

Some parents completely ignore the problem’s existence hoping it will just go away, and wait it out. The problem with this technique is that parents are ignoring the amount of stress or embarrassment this puts on the child. This could lead to extra months or even years of fear of having a slumber party with friends or not being able to go to sleep-away camp because they don’t want anyone to know they wet the bed. A child that experiences bedwetting needs support and understanding from the parents. When parents ignore the problem, the child will only feel that there is no one to turn to.

Comparing siblings

Sometimes, a younger sibling is already dry. Obviously, an older child suffering from bedwetting feels embarrassed, jealous and even shameful about the situation. Don’t compare siblings. The parents assume that if the five-year-old younger sibling has already outgrown bedwetting, it means that the eight-year-old is wetting the bed on purpose. The older child is accused of being lazy or apathetic. This attitude adds a great deal of pressure and will aggravate the problem.

Bedwetting is nobody’s fault; it is not linked to the way in which parents have raised their child and more importantly, it is not the child’s fault. Children are not conscious when bedwetting occurs which means that they are naturally unaware and not in control of their bladders at this time. The best thing a parent can do for a child that experiences bedwetting is to not make this too big of a deal when it happens and reassure the child that it was just an accident.

You cannot stop your child from wetting the bed. Unfortunately, this is something that they will need to grow out of. You can however help to manage their bedwetting by making them feel more comfortable. One way of doing this is to introduce them to DryNites® Pyjama Pants. DryNites® Pyjama Pants, have been shown to improve sleep quality, boost confidence and reduce stress (which can be a causational factor in bedwetting), as it makes wetting the bed less of a big deal. DryNites® Pyjama Pants will also give your child some control over the situation, especially if they have reached sleep over age.

For more information on DryNites® Pyjama Pants, or to ask Dr Mol a personal question or to request a free sample, visit DryNites® Pyjama Pants are currently available nationwide.

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